It’s easy to own ‘it’ if ‘it’ went well – right? Are you as quick to own the missteps too?
If you’ve been around personal development, even half as long as I have, you know growth involves stretching beyond your comfort zone into uncharted territory. That’s where the good stuff is, right? We see our fears and face them, slay our dragons and emerge victoriously, as this new stronger, tougher, wiser, more capable version of ourselves, who can confidently take on more and slay with ease. At least, that’s what is supposed to happen when you go beyond your comfort zone, isn’t it?
More often than not, growing pains are more like going to the edge of the abyss of the unknown and standing there for a while, waiting for some kind of a nudge or miracle to take us to some mythical promised land where you magically appear as successful you; or perhaps you get as far as dipping a toe into the water and are paralyzed by the fear of some real or imagined sea-monster just under the surface out to get you; perhaps you muster your courage and commit anyway and get in the water, ready to slay… only to find yourself in the comparison or perfection trap… did I do enough, did I do it as well as she did? Did I do it right, what will they think of my swimming/slaying techniques and don’t get me started on having the right images… I’m too… insert current fear here… fat/skinny/old/young/stupid/smart/experienced/credentialed/not credentialed enough/too much/not enough/kooky/authentic/reserved/wrong hair/wrong style… you get the picture… 🙁
It’s pretty easy to see why its easier to stay in the comfort zone inertia of ‘I don’t know’ what the next step is, or hold yourself in the ‘if only x, then I could…’ trap…. if only I could lose the last 10 lbs, then I could use video in my marketing… Does any of this sound familiar to you? I know you have lived some version of this dance while trying to grow your business or change your life.
I know I have! Many times since I started this journey!! It’s never easy to own it when it doesn’t go perfectly to plan… but here goes.
I put out some dates for some courses I thought I would have ready… I got some feedback on the timing and changed the dates and I had some unexpected travel opportunities pop up and I didn’t communicate any revised timelines or information. I have had a rough time with processing loss this year and my business just needed to be on the back-burner, on a low simmer for a while. So I left it like that. I went off on trips. And I stared into the distance, quite a lot, wondering what I really wanted to do with myself. Sometimes stuff happens that throws you for a loop and makes you question everything.
If I’m not constantly working on my mindset game, then fear, judgment, confusion, overwhelm and the perfection trap can take me out too. I don’t always know what to do to make it right straight away. Sometimes I visit the shame/blame rollercoaster for a while or stick my head in the sand. Sometimes, the more time passes, the harder it feels to pick up where you left off. One of my mentors shared that in her business, she keeps things rolling along, as the stop/start requires so much energy… I really got that experience this summer. Sigh. I wish I could say with certainty, it won’t happen again. But I’d rather be real with you. Sometimes I’m going to mess up. I’m human. And I’ll regret it. And try to learn from it and do better. And apologize if necessary. These last few months have been a time of reflection and reprioritizing and at times, I haven’t had the answers and I have really not known what to say.
I am reviewing my self-care habits and mindset practices and amping up where I feel I need more support. As an entrepreneur, I’m the CEO and decision maker for it all. And in life, I have a family and run a household, again, CEO and Chief Decision Maker. I’m learning, it requires a lot of self-care and personal management for me to continue to function on all cylinders. I am doing my best to let go of the stuff that doesn’t enrich me and making space for the things that do. I hope to share more of my journey with all this in my facebook group, where I can share what I am learning and what I’m doing about it, in a more day to day, intimate setting. I hope you will join me there and add to this conversation.
I am currently working on the content of the 21 Days to Chakra Bliss Course, which is planned to start Monday Sept 10. It is still free to join and will involve purchasing supplies from some links I will be providing. The class is a beginner class for those wishing to learn about the Chakras and a refresher for those looking to deepen their knowledge and practices of how to live with more awareness and harmony with their Chakras. My intention is you learn to nurture yourself and develop a practice of self-care, aligning your Chakras… it’s been helpful for me to do that lately.
Prosperous Goddess Collective, a membership program will begin October 1st. Special early bird pricing available for those of you that know already, even if I haven’t gotten all the t’s crossed and the i’s dotted yet… you have already heard me speak of it and if you know you want to be a part of this… this early bird is especially for you. The regular price is likely to be $67 a month, but for the 1st 7 Goddesses to say Yes, it will be $27 a month, for as long as you choose to remain a member. Prosperous Goddess will discuss all kinds of topics on creating a prosperous lifestyle, in alignment with the Goddess you are, getting in touch with your divine feminine, exploring attraction principles, manifestation, unapologetically stepping into your Goddess, always focusing on health, wealth and happiness. You deserve to experience and support yourself with impeccable sisterhood, feminine tools, and practices that support you in being your best feminine, gorgeous Goddess, at whatever age or stage you are living. This is the place for you to learn tools and tips to explore more of you. I am very excited about this community! If you want to be an early bird for this program, leave a comment or hit reply and let me know.
Thanks for your patience and sisterhood. Much love to you. xo